A few days ago, I had an anniversary.
Six years ago, I decided to make a radical decision in my life and move away.
Not just down the road or even the next town. I moved over 2000 miles away, with my life packed in one suitcase I came to England.
Tadaaaa, here I am, six years later and still living in England!
I decided to share with you my journey and show you that working hard and not giving up, through all the blood, sweat and tears does pay off! Okay maybe not the blood but you get my point.
When I first arrived, I stayed over in a Travelodge for one night, desperate to find some kind of accommodation in a shared house before starting my new job on Monday. It wasn’t easy, mainly due to my tight budget. But I didn’t want to spend another night in a hotel (which cost about £20 a night back then), so I spent the entire Sunday walking around Burton on Trent, looking for an accommodation. I was looking everywhere for shared accommodation; walked from shop to shop and read pretty much every advertising board, newspaper etc. But nothing.
It was both mentally and physically tough, especially with having only limited English and money. I was desperate to find something. I came back to the hotel room a few times, with tears in my eyes, wondering what the hell I am even doing with my life. Around 8pm, I finally found a spare room available immediately. The family, who was offering the room, luckily let me move in that evening.
For the first three months working the night shift in an Argos warehouse, I didn’t have any real social life due to working most nights.
I didn’t know anyone so never went out. My Friday nights consistent of either working or having a few drinks in my room and falling asleep around 7pm exhausted and continuously ill.
Three months later, I moved to Derby and started a new job, another warehouse. It wasn’t a bad job; it offered good money and overtime opportunities. I worked almost every single day. Living in England at the beginning wasn’t easy.
There were tears, I felt broken and nonstop tired. I tried to approach people and talk to them, but either they didn’t understand me, or I didn’t understand them. It took me a while to come out of my little shell and push myself. If I didn’t mention this before – I used to be very shy and quiet.
A few months later, I was finally part of a group, I was taken in, and we started going out to the local pub after shifts. Skip forward five years – a majority of these people are still my best friends, and to this day we still party together!
In July of that year, I moved again. Moving three times in less twelve months was painful, but what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I believe that everything happens for a reason. In July 2014, I moved into a spare room at Carl’s house.
He often says that life is like Emmental cheese – with many holes and turns. What would our lives be like if I hadn’t moved in or he’d never advertised the room?
In 2015 I got an office-based job, still within the same company but in the Marketing Communications Department. Monday to Friday, regular hours someone would say! I had to pass two interviews before I got it, a few sleepless nights and a few complaints from people who didn’t want me to get the job. Human beings often bring other people down, especially if they do better in life than us. We envy them; we want to be like them; we copy them and lose our own uniqueness. Being a human being means to be there for people, to learn from them, to teach them and achieve big things together. But you know, jealousy is a (cough).
When I got the job, I knew things were going to change.
And they did. Getting this job changed everything. It changed me.
All my life, I didn’t think I could do better, in Slovakia I had lots of different jobs, no career path, no plans. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, where it was going to, and although I had dreams, until this job, they were only dreams.
I am a Capricorn female, and I’m not sure if you are familiar with star signs. Still, these women are very determined, stubborn and motivated. I couldn’t agree more!
Sooo, since living in England I took on a few online courses, improved my English and pronunciation, did my GSCE Higher Level and got myself a few certificates. Then it finally happened – I started to live a life I wanted. I ‘found’ myself, my passions, I started pursuing my dreams, my entire life changed, and I belonged somewhere.
Together with Carl we started travelling the world, going to restaurants, trying new things and ever since we have been building the life we want together. It’s not always easy, and nothing worth having ever is, but life is what you make out of it. What you build.
I now work for an IT Company as a Marketing Executive and if someone told me all of this six years ago – what my life will be like – I wouldn’t believe that person! I’ve met some fantastic people, and have some unforgettable memories. Now more than ever, I am grateful for everything and everyone in my life and for having the determination to be able to build the life I’ve always dreamed of
Don’t forget, life is what you make it!